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This BDSM Dominatrix Says Vanilla People Could Learn A Few Things From Kink

on Saturday, 26 May 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Refinery29

“We live in a world where men can publicly prey upon and demean women and still become president, but if a man wants to kiss a woman’s foot and clean her apartment it’s considered deviant,” Mistress Yin says to Ken in one scene. This is the kind of subversive messaging Mercy Mistress creator Yin Quan was striving to promote with the show, which is based on her own experiences as a New York City dominatrix in the early 2000s. Mercy Mistress isn't just a show about BDSM (and certainly not the next version of 50 Shades Of Grey). It's a show that gives power back to those who need it: the submissive men, queer Asian-American women, the kink community, and many more. We sat down with Yin Quan, Poppy Liu, and Mercy Mistress director Amanda Madden to talk about demystifying BDSM, the healing power of art, and what vanilla people can learn from kink.

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The Boundary Between Abuse and B.D.S.M.

on Thursday, 24 May 2018. Posted in NCSF in the News!, Front Page Headline, Media Updates

NY Times “People who are not interested in kinky sex find it hard to understand, but some of us are just wired to really enjoy extreme sensations, whether it’s emotional or physical or mental challenge,” said Susan Wright, the founder of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, an advocacy organization.

Let’s Clear Up Some Misconceptions About Nonmonogamy

on Wednesday, 23 May 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Root Are there people who have a “Don’t ask, don’t tell” policy in their relationship? Sure, and it is likely because they had a discussion and agreed that it would work for them within their relationship dynamic. But remember that every relationship is different. You have to make these types of agreements together.

8 Hardest Parts About Being Polyamorous That No Tells You (But I Will)

on Tuesday, 22 May 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Elite Daily

"Someone who's polyamorous may have an anchor family they live with, a steady sweetie in another state, casual hookup buddies in their town, and friends they 'swing' with," Aida Manduley, sexuality educator and social worker, explained to Elite Daily earlier this month. The benefits of being polyamorous typically include more romantic flexibility, greater freedom of sexual expression, and less pressure to subscribe to norms like traditional relationship timelines.

Jersey City Briefs

on Monday, 21 May 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Hudson Reporter “As it was previously written, the definitions of obscenity within the municipal code proved to be outdated, and ended up putting unfair restrictions on the expression of our artists and performers whose work is far from what would typically be labeled ‘obscene’,” said Mayor Fulop. “During the past few weeks, we have worked our team and community members on updating this law to reflect contemporary community standards and prevent future confusion.” Read more: Hudson Reporter - JERSEY CITY BRIEFS

Sex Ed Vloggers Say YouTube Is Censoring Their Videos

on Thursday, 17 May 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Broadly

“If you're going to consume any content online, what is more enticing? A pixelated icon in search that has very unflattering faces, or an icon that looks thoughtful, put-together and makes it clear what the video is about?” asks Amp Somers, the co-founder of YouTube channel Watts the Safe Word. With videos including “Negotiating sex and kink” and “Lube 101 – which do I choose?”, Watts the Safe Word specializes in a light-hearted, humorous approach to LGBTQ sex education.

Six Queers on Polyamory and Identity

on Thursday, 17 May 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Autostraddle

I’m actively not ashamed of how different relationships allow me to perform gender differently, or give me a way to build love and acceptance with someone based on our similar life experience with race or any other mutual point of interest, really. When I realized that other people had always partially defined what categories I did or didn’t have access to, I decided to actively resist that.

How To Make An Open Relationship Work

on Wednesday, 16 May 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Complex Like any relationship, open unions don’t follow stringent guidelines. But when venturing into non-traditional territory, something like a rule book is more necessary than not. “Set the ground-rules for what actions and behaviors are allowed and disallowed under your open arrangement,” Courtney Clemen, founder of The V. Club, tells Complex. “It’s very important to think through all the scenarios and circumstances that could arise.” Couples should have a crystal clear understanding of what they are permitting each other to do, because the concept of sex is a broad spectrum and what’s OK and what’s not is subjective. Having agreeable rules ultimately minimizes feelings of insecurity, fear, and jealousy that can arise in an open relationship.
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