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Here's The Real Truth About Polyamory In The Black Community

on Wednesday, 17 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


“I don’t believe in rules. Rules are about trying to wall off an insecurity,” Kevin told me. “When I’m triggered, it inspires me to ask where the insecurity is coming from.” He feels that his partners should all have autonomy.

On Aziz Ansari And Sex That Feels Violating Even When It’s Not Criminal

on Wednesday, 17 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Huffington Post

Women are socialized from a young age to cater to the comfort of those around them ― especially if those around them are men. As Christopher said, girls are simply “taught from a younger age to be more concerned about their environments, about potential threats.”Conversely, many men are taught that they are entitled to women’s time, attention and physical affection ― and that if those things are not readily offered to them, they should be aggressive and take it. This creates a dynamic where women often defer to men’s needs in an effort to avoid embarrassment, verbal conflict or physical violence, and where it may not even occur to men to check in with women’s needs.

The Daily Lives of Poly People

on Friday, 12 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

BTR Today

Kapin says that typical depictions of non-monogamy focus just on sex, “You see pictures of tons of people under a sheet with their feet sticking out,” says Kapin. Granted, Kapin took that very picture in the project. Still, her point is well taken. As with monogamous couples, she says, “with our partners, we play video games, we go on walks, we make breakfast. While sex is a part of it for many people, it’s definitely not the main thing”

Meet Governor Bondage & Blackmail: "Family Values" Conservative Eric Greitens

on Friday, 12 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Stranger

Greitens tied her up, blindfolded her, took pictures of her naked body without her consent and threatened to post them to the Internet if she ever told anyone about their affair. Bondage without prior negotiation, non-consensual sex acts, threats, revenge porn. That may be what passes for "family values" in Missouri but that kinda of shit will get your ass drummed out of the BDSM community in San Francisco. You wouldn't be welcome to sweep up after a munch, much less allowed to be governor of the kink scene.

Happy Ending: Kink Cafe Wicked Grounds Will Reopen

on Thursday, 11 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

After beating its fundraising goals

SF Eater

Last week, Wicked Grounds seemed to be at the end of its rope, financially speaking, announcing it would close for good over the weekend. But that move turned out to be the business equivalent of uttering a safe word. Over 900 devastated customers pledged monthly donations on Patreon, amounting to funding of more than $15,000. According to Mir, that’s enough to save the business, which is currently open with a skeleton crew and limited hours and food options.

'NCIS' recap: 'Dark Secrets'

on Thursday, 11 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Entertainment Weekly

Fifty Shades of Grey was roundly criticized by both the psychological and BDSM communities for stating that Christian’s “singular tastes” derived from abuse and neglect, by depicting BDSM as, in the words of The Atlantic‘s Emma Green, “a pathology, not a path to pleasure.” By turning Melissa’s sexual desires into a shocking, shameful secret, NCIS is indulging in the same overgeneralization. At the very least, I wish the show had acknowledged the difference between healthy and unhealthy expressions of this type of kink.

Everything You Wanted To Know About Polyamourous Men But Were Afraid To Ask

on Thursday, 04 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Mens XP

Polyamorous men could belong to all genders and sexes, male, trans male and every other definable and undefined gender. If you love more than one at one time and believe in keeping all of them informed, chances are that you are polyamorous. You could also belong to different sexualities – you could be a man loving more than one man, or a man who loves more than one woman.  You could also be a transperson who loves men or women or transpeople or all. For instance, I am a homosexual man and polyamorous, which means, despite being in a relationship with a man, without hiding from my male partner; I could also express love to other men. However, this doesn't mean that I would consider getting into relationships with other men. 

From A to Z, 26 Kinks and Fetishes You Should Know About

on Wednesday, 03 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


L is for Limits

Consent is paramount in kink. If you’re just getting started, or want to slowly introduce BDSM into an existing relationship, both you and your partner should make a list of your soft and hard limits. A soft limit is something that you’re curious about yet unsure if it’s right for you, such as name-calling. A hard limit is something that you are certain is off-limits, such as electrostimulation. Writing out your hard and soft limits with a partner is a wonderful way to get to know another side of one another. Along with implementing limits, it's important to choose a safe word that is not “no” or “stop,” because some couples use such language as a part of their role play. You can always adjust your hard and soft limits the more you explore, so it’s better to lean on the safe side when pondering and discussing what feels right. Always keep in mind that your kinks may not perfectly align with your partner’s, and that’s OK. “Just because you want it doesn’t mean that someone has to do it,” Horn says. Kink is about consent, communication, and compromise.

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