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Being in a Polyamorous Relationship Prepared Me for Monogamy

on Thursday, 20 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


McCullough also speaks to another way polyamory teaches healthy relationship skills: Certain topics need to be brought up consistently, especially as things in the relationship change. Prior to being polyamorous, I never told a partner, “This will be an ongoing conversation. When something changes in our relationship or one of us starts feeling a certain way about this, let’s talk about this again.” Before polyamory, I would typically have just one conversation with a partner about an issue we were struggling with, and then we would never resurface it. Ongoing conversations take into account that your needs and wants will change as a relationship evolves. This is true for all types of relationships — even platonic ones with family, friends, and coworkers.

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on Tuesday, 18 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The complicated life of a black woman who gets off on being a sex slave.


There are days when I feel like the entire world expects me to be strong, simply because that is what’s expected of black women. We must solve every problem, cook every meal, dry every tear, and make everyone else’s lives happier. But sometimes, I don’t want to make any decisions. Surrendering to my master, then, means momentarily unburdening myself from the weight I carry as a divorced black mother. My obligations are so draining, I relish the comfort I feel when I can safely give myself over to someone who respects, loves, and values me.

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After Abuse Allegations in Porn, Introduces Consent Documents

on Tuesday, 11 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


Shortly after the allegations against Deen, Kink announced that it would no longer be working with him. The company also updated its “model bill of rights” to emphasize consent and encourage reporting of non-consensual behavior. “That made us really look at, ‘What are the gray areas?’” said Stabile. “How can we tease this out more?” In the years since, Kink continued to develop its protocols as it went from producing porn to distributing content made by third-parties. “We didn’t want consent to be a competitive advantage that we had,” said Stabile of the decision to share its protocols.

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Medellin judge grants pension to polyamorous husbands

on Tuesday, 11 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Columbia Reports

"This is the first time in Colombia that two men have requested a shared survivor’s pension in a polyamorous relationship, but we’re not doing it for the money, as we are in work and don’t need it. We’re doing it for the dignity of our family, of which Alex always felt so proud."

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National Sex Day Is 6/9 & Here's How To Celebrate

on Sunday, 09 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates


"I think talking about sex with your friends can help normalize interests and behaviors and it can also spark your imagination," Sarah Watson, licensed professional counselor and sex therapist, tells Bustle. "Friends can encourage you to try new things and expand your horizons. In my experience, most people aren't educated on how to talk about sex so starting with your friends in a loving and safe environment can be very helpful!"

19 06 09

No taste for vanilla! When and why is pain pleasurable?

on Saturday, 08 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Medical News Journal

Another reason for engaging in rough play during sex is that of escapism. "Pain," explain authors of a review published in The Journal of Sex Research, "can focus attention on the present moment and away from abstract, high-level thought."

"In this way," the authors continue, "pain may facilitate a temporary reprieve or escape from the burdensome responsibilities of adulthood."

In fact, a study from 2015 found that many people who practiced BDSM reported that their erotic practices helped them de-stress and escape their daily routine and worries.

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Is An Open Relationship Over Summer Break A Good Idea? An Expert Weighs In

on Thursday, 06 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Elite Daily

What's OK for you? What's not OK for you? Would you feel some type of way if your partner cuddled after they had sex with their new partner? Are you allowed to post about your open relationship on social media? Can you sleep with friends? Coming up with a "Yes/No/Maybe" list — sexual acts or behaviors with your new partners that are a "yes," "no," or a "maybe" — can come in clutch. Schechinger also says that scheduling check-in times in advance can also be helpful.

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How This Queer, Asian BDSM Practitioner Envisions The Future Of Pride

on Wednesday, 05 June 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Huffington Post

I feel like the younger queer generation ― whether they’re into kink or not ― are able to see [kink] without being horrified or like their identity is going to be repressed. I know there are so many people within the older generation of the LGBTQIA community who really didn’t want anything to do with the leather community. They really wanted to separate themselves from it to show they are family-oriented, to show they’re “normal” ― part of corporate America, which is how we got into the more corporate version of Pride. The generation that’s younger than me is embracing [kink/BDSM] and are much more likely to be activists in upholding an array of progressive idealisms.

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