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Fight in 2018! An Interview With Our Volunteer Coordinator

on Monday, 30 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

by Julian Wolf


Was one of your resolutions for 2018 making a difference? Current politics have you ready to stand up and fight for your freedom? Have extra time and a passion for serving your national community? We'd love to have you work with us! Our volunteer coordinator extraordinaire Keira joined me virtually to answer a few questions about how you can help the work of the NCSF actively this year.


Thanks for joining us! What sort of help does the NCSF need? Is it always sitting at tables?


Keira: Most of the volunteering is actually done via the internet. We are always looking for skilled volunteers for all sorts of projects. We tailor the project to the volunteer. The most common projects require creative skills like writing and graphic design, but we really do find something for everyone. Once we even asked someone to create coloring book pages for us!


Do you need experience in advocacy? What if you're new to swingers and/or kink community, should those folks wait to participate?


Keira: Again, the projects are tailored to the volunteer. You don't need any experience in advocacy, activism, or community. Just willingness and drive to volunteer.


How would one of our constituents go about offering to volunteer with the NCSF?


Keira: Our website has a volunteer questionnaire that you need to fill out in order to become a volunteer. The URL is


What keeps you volunteering?


Keira: I really enjoy the people I work with and I'm proud of the work I do. Additionally, working with NCSF has really improved my self worth and helped me make many positive changes in my personal life.


Anything else you'd like to share with us?

Keira: Volunteering for NCSF is done in as low stress a way as possible. So please don't be scared. It's really painless.


Thank you so much for your work!


Keira has been actively volunteering with the NCSF since 2011 and joined the board in 2014. She was recently featured as a Poly Role Model. See her interview here or via our website at


You can reach Keira at This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it.

NCSF Thanks for the 1st Quarter Donations – January to March, 2018

on Sunday, 29 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

Thank you to our Coalition Partner Leather SINS for donating $5,000 to NCSF at Kinky Kollege Spring Break in March!

Thank you to Dick Cunningham and Judy Guerin for donating $2,500 in matching donations as part of the Dark Odyssey Winterfire fundraising efforts.

Thank you to Russell Stambaugh, NCSF Board Member and Kink Aware Professionals Advocate, for donating $2,000 to NCSF. $1,000 was dedicated to support NCSF’s Consent Summit in New York City in September 2017, and the other $1,000 was given to the NCSF Foundation.

NCSF thanks Marc Depaul for donating $1,500 to NCSF in February!

NCSF Thanks Dale Maddox, Ms. Atlanta Eagle, and Kae with the House of Trei for hosting a fundraiser at the Atlanta Eagle that raised $1,240 for NCSF on March 3rd as the 1st Capital Finance’s Coalition Partner fundraiser.

NCSF thanks Lucille Ballbuster for donating $950 from the proceeds from of her birthday fundraiser—and she wants to thank all the wonderful people who celebrated with her for their generosity!

Thank you to Coalition Partner, Adventures in Sexuality, for donating $412 from their Winter Wickedness event in February, 2018 along with raising $115 in duck donations, for a total of $527.

Thank you to Bound in Boston and Broken Giraffe Enterprises for donating $400 to the NCSF Foundation in March.

NCSF thanks FetLife for donating $300 this quarter to NCSF!

Thank you to Nickie Fuentes of Modern Tribe Counseling, Coalition Partner of NCSF, for holding a Facebook Birthday Fundraiser and raising $275 to donate to NCSF.

Thank you to our Coalition Partner NHOT for holding a Consent for Groups Discussion in February and raising $130 which was matched by NHOT for a total of $260 donated to NCSF.

Thank you to James Dunyak, NCSF New England Advocate, for donating $200 to NCSF this quarter!

Thank you to Savannah Nicole Checketts for holding a Facebook Birthday Fundraiser and raising $200 to donate to NCSF.

NCSF thanks Kayla & Dave for donating $100 at Dark Odyssey in February as part of NCSF’s fundraising efforts.

Thank you to NCSF Coalition Partner, the Knights of Leather, for donating $100 as their annual Coalition Partner fundraiser in January!

Thank you to our Coalition Partner MAsT: Boise for donating $60 as their annual CP donation to NCSF.

Discrimination Against Kinky Parents

on Wednesday, 25 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

“De-Pathologization of Consensual BDSM” by Susan Wright, written as Invited Commentary in the Journal of Sexual Medicine, is now available:

This article tracks the discrimination against kinky parents in child custody cases that were reported to NCSF before and after the American Psychiatric Association (APA) differentiated between consensual sexual behavior and the Paraphilic Disorders in their Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5).

Family court judges regularly removed child custody or visitation rights from adults who engaged in consensual BDSM, fetishes and cross-dressing behaviors. After the proposed changes to the DSM-5 were made public for commentary in 2011, there was a significant drop in discrimination against BDSM-practicing individuals.

A total of 808 parents contacted the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom's Incident Reporting and Response (IRR) program from January 2005 to December 2017 to report that a determining factor in their child custody hearing was their BDSM, fetishism, cross-dressing and/or non-monogamous behavior.

In 2008, 124 parents contacted NCSF for assistance compared to 15 parents in 2017, four years after the 2013 publication of the DSM-5 which clarified that the majority of individuals who are active in community networks that practice sadistic and masochistic behaviors do not meet the DSM-5 criteria for a mental disorder.

To find out more about NCSF’s DSM project (1987-2017) click here -

12 Questions People In Polyamorous Relationships Are Sick Of Hearing

on Wednesday, 25 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Huffington Post

“I’ve heard every version of this and despite my big heart, it always makes me want to punch someone in the face. The condescension and self-righteousness are almost more than I can break down, but consider this: Polyamory is not a compromise we make because we have lower standards; it’s a preference — some even consider it an orientation. Doing it right cultivates an intense depth of intimacy. Just like choosing to be exclusive, we’re just growing closer through different experiences. You may prefer cross-country skiing, but that doesn’t mean everyone who snowboards is settling.” ― Zaeli Kane, who runs the YouTube series The Commotion: A Divine (Romantic) Comedy with her partner Blake Wilson. She’s been with her husband Joe Spurr for 14 years and they have a daughter. Joe has a girlfriend named Ixi.

Cloudflare: FOSTA Was a 'Very Bad Bill' That's Left the Internet's Infrastructure Hanging

on Sunday, 22 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Motherboard “[Terminating service to Switter] is related to our attempts to understand FOSTA, which is a very bad law and a very dangerous precedent,” he told me in a phone conversation. “We have been traditionally very open about what we do and our roles as an internet infrastructure company, and the steps we take to both comply with the law and our legal obligations—but also provide security and protection, let the internet flourish and support our goals of building a better internet.”

Smallville Star Allison Mack Arrested and Charged With Sex Trafficking

on Saturday, 21 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

E News

Mack has been accused of recruiting slaves by telling them they were joining a women-only organization that would empower them. She allegedly required her slaves to engage in sexual activity with Raniere in exchange for money or other benefits. If the alleged slaves did not participate, it was thought that damaging information about them and their families and friends would be released. According to court documents, Mack's alleged behavior took place approximately between February 2016 and February 2017.

D. “Choc Trei” Henderson appointed as an NCSF Board Member

on Thursday, 19 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

The Board of Directors of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is pleased to announce the appointment of D. “Choc Trei” Henderson as an NCSF Board Member for a one year term. Choc has been active with NCSF in representing our Coalition Partner, 1st Capital Finance, and heading up the NCSF Southern Advocates team, The House of Trei.

During NCSF’s Anniversary weekend in Atlanta, Choc participated in the NCSF Annual Meeting and co-presented a workshop at LLC called Liberation is Felt, Seen and Heard, conceptualized by Ruby B. Johnson and co-presented by Aida Mandulay.

The House of Trei also set up a refreshing midday break during the NCSF Annual Meeting and donated lunch for all of the participants. In addition, NCSF Board Members were very pleased to accept a $1,240 check from the 1st Capital Finance’s annual Coalition Partner fundraiser on March 3rd that was co-produced by Dale Maddox, Ms. Atlanta Eagle 2017, and Kae Trei at the Atlanta Eagle.

NCSF is grateful to have the advice and energy provided by Choc throughout the coming year. Please support her by getting involved in her Southeast Regional planning!!

Choc pic

Students, business people unpack the 'safe, sane and consensual' world of BDSM

on Thursday, 19 April 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Vermilion “You can try yourself,” Menard added, “but the time required to understand BDSM can be greatly lessened by getting involved with the community. “It’s like Ollivander's, the wand shop in ‘Harry Potter:’ you gotta find the right one,” David said of the various leather and BDSM related items. “I hope that people who are interested in kinks take the time to find resources that will take that journey along,” Menard said.
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