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Inside world’s NAUGHTIEST New Year's Ball: Sexiest party EVER exposed

on Tuesday, 02 January 2018. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Daily Star

The festival, which promotes the swinging lifestyle, leaves those who go with a "big smile", according to Bob. Speaking exclusively to Daily Star Online, Bob said back in July: “It is important to be seen publicly. To break out of the shadows of shame and stand up for what we believe. “We get a variety of reactions, but overall, most are very supportive."

The 10 Best Web Series of 2017: John Early, Zoe Cassavetes, Black Girl Magic, and More

on Saturday, 30 December 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Indie Wire

If Issa Rae were a queer woman, “Insecure” might look more like “195 Lewis,” a show so stylish, sexy, and assured that it has steadily built momentum by word of mouth since its festival premiere over a year ago. Set in the heart of Bed-Stuy, Brooklyn, “195 Lewis” follows a black lesbian couple as they strive to practice radical honesty in their newly polyamorous relationship. Surrounding them are a group of close-knit young black queer friends, peppered with characters as unique and colorful as the greens and purple hues of every gorgeous frame.

How a Montreal-made online tool helps sexual harassment victims navigate the legal system

on Friday, 29 December 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

CBC 

The bot has access to 300,000 criminal court documents from the United States and Canada. With that information, it's able to analyze if a law was violated, and which law, depending on where the events took place. It also asks for written details in an incident report which is analyzed and emailed back to the user along with sections of the Criminal Code related to what happened. Dutt said that the incident report gives the user something with which they can go to authorities.

Poly Role Models: Keira Harbison of the NCSF

on Thursday, 28 December 2017. Posted in NCSF in the News!, Front Page Headline, Media Updates

by Kevin A. Patterson

 

Keira: Again, so, firstly, I am a female, I am queer, I am married. Those three, being polyamorous is constantly intersecting with them. Being a female, it means that I’m dating and dealing with dating tends to have its own special lovely issues in and of itself. It means that I’m finding new partners, I’m teaching new people about polyamory regularly because I live in an area where polyamory is all but unheard of. It gives me the opportunity to explore my queer identity by letting me have a girlfriend while I’m also married to a man.

Guest Blog: Trans for the Holidays

on Friday, 22 December 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, NCSF News

By Lucia Caltabiano

The holidays are a unique for many folks. It’s time for families, friends, gifts, and parties. For trans folk this can be the case or it can be complicated, bitter sweet, or entirely the opposite. Trans folk have a vast continuum of experiences and views. Just like cisgender men and women being trans is not a monolithic experience. I’m writing this piece halfway through the holidays and a week before my birthday to help folks realize what being trans can look like for the holidays. 

It looks like…

Going to your partner’s company holiday party and not correcting the people around you, because you’re not sure if they’ll retaliate against you, or even worse against him. Not to mention explaining one’s self is exhausting. 

It looks like…

Dinner at your mother’s. She’s planned for your favorite foods, the house smells like home and you get to help cook in the kitchen. But it’s also saddening when she says ‘daughter’ and ‘feminine’ and ‘this is your stocking, because you’re a girl’ and then surprises you with a new blouse she’s bought for you. 

It look like…

Parties with friends where you can truly relax, because even if they slip up and accidentally misgender you, you can expect an apology. You can gently correct them, and not expect retaliation for doing so. Yet at parties where people may not know you’re trans and it is safe, it can mean an exhaustive explanation period that draws more attention than you care for. 

It looks like…

A homeless trans youth that stopped by the soup kitchen where you’re volunteering, whose family has rejected them and who is trafficking themself just for a couch to sleep on and a hot meal half of the time.

It looks like…

Your little girl (assigned male at birth) getting to open her presents to find the tutu she wants or the doll she asked for, a soccer ball, or a new craft kit about dinosaurs. Seeing that smiles makes you feel better than anything else in the world. You may also feel a little guilt for the twinge of sadness that crosses your mind too; still be mourning the loss of the son you thought you had. The grieving process is a common experience for parents of trans kids so they can move on and appreciate their son or daughter that they have instead. 

It looks like…

An awkward silence when your transfeminine friend opens a white elephant gift to find The Man Apron. Then your other friend swaps with them so she can have something that is not assigned male. 

It looks like…

Almost crying when a friend on social media posts about how being trans or non binary or gender non conforming is valid. No one tagged you, no one mentioned you, but that post still speaks to you while you wonder when it will be the right time to come out or if you should just put on the pants instead of the dress you bought for holiday parties. 

It looks like…

Your partner asking if you’d like to go to Thanksgiving dinner which you didn’t know would be an option. He’s perfectly insistent that his parents use the correct pronouns and has advocated for you for months so that when you do meet, it’s in a comfortable and validating atmosphere.  

Some of these are my experiences. Some of the experiences of those around me that they’ve been kind enough to share. The point is, if you are trans and you decide that hormones or surgery are right for you, or you want to wear that special outfit, WONDERFUL! Do it!! And if you can’t afford hormones, because you don’t have health insurance, or your doctor is concerned it will exacerbate a health condition, you are still valid. If you decide you don’t want to rock the boat by advocating for your correct pronouns, you’re still valid. If you simply decide (like me) that hormones and surgery aren’t right for you, then you are also valid. 

We don’t need to look or act a certain way to know exactly who and how we are. Hormones and surgery don’t make us anymore trans, and neither do our acts of self advocacy or lack thereof. And I also want you to know that you are not alone. 

To the cis folk who are reading this article: please be aware of how vastly our experiences vary. Yes, some of us have accepting and validating families. Our holidays are full of reasons to celebrate and be happy, even if the happiness is dotted with sadness. 

The best thing you can do is to use gender affirming language, pronouns, and adjectives. Never say how well someone ‘passes’, but say how lovely she looks with her hair done special for the holiday party or how much you like his ugly sweater. If someone is struggling, don’t make excuses for cis folk. We already know you struggle at times with our pronouns or how we present. We know because we experience that confusion every day, along with misgendering (intentional and unintentional) as well as all the other micro aggressions. 

And lastly, just listen; that’s all you have to do. Validate what your trans friend or partner says they’re experiencing and support your friends if they have a trans kid. Talk with your trans students if they come to you and listen to their experience; better yet educate yourself with resources like local PFLAG groups, GLSEN, and whatever LGBTQ+ group may be in your school or local community.

 

Susan Wright - NCSF - In The News

on Friday, 22 December 2017. Posted in NCSF in the News!, Front Page Headline

Kinky Cast

This week Woody & the Beast have their annual talk with Susan Wright of the NCSF.  With all the news of high profile men, finally having to admit the sins of their past and as the result, they loose their jobs.  High profile jobs, news anchors, senators, movie actors and producers.  How’s next the President?  Susan gives perspective on this sign of the times.  Susan Wright spends the bulk of her time acting as an educator and advocate for people who have been persecuted for their sexual preferences. She does this through her work with the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom — which she founded — and through a multitude of other projects. In the other half of her life, she has published over 30 novels over the course of her writing career, many of them sexually charged fantasy novels. Considering her output, you’d assume she’d have no time left over after she finished plotting out storylines, writing manuscripts, and making her way through the editing process.

I Tried Erotic Hypnosis and Ended Up Aroused But Crying

on Thursday, 21 December 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Vice

Erotic hypnosis certainly seemed less dangerous or creepy than I first assumed, so long as clear lines of consent were drawn up and boundaries were respected. And I really liked its emphasis on stimulating that biggest sex organ of all—the mind.

Generation X, Y, Z: Four Black Sexuality Professionals Critique She’s Gotta Have It Series

on Wednesday, 20 December 2017. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Huffington Post

by Ruby Johnson, LCSW

I believe Saah says it better than I ever could. From Gen X-Z, we can identify with “In Nola, I was looking for a 2017 version of Claire Huxtable. A sex-positive, polyamorous, pansexual, sexually liberated woman that I could hold up as someone to aspire to be, instead I got a beautiful, messy, and complicated story of a woman on a journey. And even though I’ve now learned how to practice polyamory in a healthy, loving, and emotionally present way (something that Nola has not yet learned), I am reminded by Nola of what my journey has looked like and of the journey that’s ahead of me.”

 

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