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The Psychology of Sexual Kink

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Swaddle

"The kink sexual preference is a greatly stigmatized one, and the psychology behind it misunderstood. Kink is believed to stem out of trauma, which is false; it’s perceived to bastardize the tender idea of making love, again false; and it’s considered ‘freaky’ and ‘not normal,’ guess: false. Understanding how kink develops and what kinky people get out of it are initial steps toward normalizing an integral aspect of human sexuality."

19 08 12

What Kind of People Enjoy BDSM?

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Psychology Today

"Italian researchers recently surveyed the sexuality of 266 Italian men and women who enjoy bondage, discipline, and sado-masochism (BDSM). The study population ranged in age from 18 to 74 and averaged 41. The researchers also surveyed 200 demographically similar men and women not involved in BDSM. The two groups reported similar feelings about their sexuality, but the BDSM players reported less sexual distress and greater erotic satisfaction. The researchers said they hoped their study would 'reduce the stigma associated with BDSM.'"

19 08 9

 

Polyamory Works for Them

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The NY Times

"Having multiple partners can mean more pleasure, but it’s not always easy."

19 08 07

Consensual Non-Monogamy: Reducing the Stigma on People in Open Relationships

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Good Men Project

"During a recent podcast, I interviewed David Singer, a licensed marriage and family therapist, and a poly- and kink-aware professional who practices in Los Angeles, California. He specializes in working with people practicing or exploring consensual non-monogamy, those involved in kink and power exchange relationships, and professional sex workers...

Our interview focused on consensual non-monogamy, as well as the kink lifestyle, and what all of this means."

19 08 05

Questions abound as ACAL closes

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Anchorage Press

"First, a couple people asked what the community would do without a space. The answer is, the same thing it has always done. Every town and city around the country does not have a BDSM and sex club. They still find ways to make it work. You create community in so many ways. You can go to munches (food and drink gatherings for people that are like minded), you can have house parties, you can find people that have large portions of private property, and you can take over entire campgrounds. The important thing to remember with all of these suggestions is that you observe the same rules about consent and appropriate behavior. Once you have let people know that you are kinky, all of your behavior from that point forward is representing the entire community."

19 08 02

BDSM Culture Can Make Women More Assertive In Work, Relationships

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

The Swaddle

"A barrage of recent research hints at the effects of empowerment via BDSM: people with sexual kinks or fetishes, such as BDSM, group sex, or role-play, have better mental health, less psychological stress, higher self-worth, and more satisfying relationships."

19 07 31

How To Have Kinky Sex During Pregnancy, According To An Expert

on Saturday, 17 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Romper

"Romper spoke with Madison Young, sex educator, mother, parenting podcaster, and author of The Ultimate Guide to Sex through Pregnancy and Motherhood about how to embrace kink while pregnant, how to talk about it, and how to enjoy safely."

19 07 27

Champagne club allowed to remain open

on Wednesday, 14 August 2019. Posted in Front Page Headline, Media Updates

Fort Wayne's NBC

The future of a swingers club was up in the air at Tuesday’s council meeting. A vote Tuesday night on a proposed ordinance that aimed to declare live sex act businesses a nuisance, saying they “contribute to the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.”

There is one swingers club currently operating in Fort Wayne, the Champagne Club on Nuttman Ave.

If the ordinance had passed , the club would have been forced to close. Some councilmen said the facts given to the council weren’t strong enough to prove swingers clubs posed a health risk to the community.

After an intense and extensive council meeting the swingers club ordinance was dismissed. The vote was 3-3 and councilmen Ensley abstained from voting. Therefore the swingers club can operate as it has been.

It was standing room only in Tuesday’s council meeting as members of the swingers club lined the back of the room. An attorney for the club gave the council stats about the Champagne Club.

The attorney said there are 15,281 individual members with 19% of those being residents of Fort Wayne. In order to be part of the club the attorney says you have to pay to be a member, and pass a background check. Everyone brings their own alcohol, the doors are always locked, and there are no windows to the establishment. The attorney added that the club brings an economic benefit for the community saying they estimate $5-$10 million in tourism revenue.

One swinger says there is a misconception of what actually happens at a swingers club.

“You go there, you meet lifestyle members, like minded members. It’s just a fun place, a safe place it’s just a fun place to be at. A lot of dancing, a lot of flirting, a lot of love,” he said.

Some councilmen said the Champagne Club puts Fort Wayne in a bad light. While others argued that those who go the the swingers clubs are grown adults making their own decisions. Throughout the discussion of the ordinance morality was talked about extensively.

“I don’t think government should be involved. Once I draw that line saying this person’s morality is better than that person’s where do I stop,” said John Crawford.

“I, in good conscience, can not be an advocate and use the weight of my position to advocate for something I think is immoral. I am also very interested in limited government and I didn’t feel comfortable using the authority and force of government,” said Paul Ensley.

“You have to draw the distinction. Is it morality that affects the public at large, verses not? My morality might be different than others, and when it comes to just a strictly moral decision it’s a slippery slope if you start making those decisions purely on morality,” said Michael Barranda. ...

19 08 14

 

NCSF sent the following letter to all of the Fort Wayne City Council Members on July 30, 2019:

Dear City Council Members,

I am writing on behalf of the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom which consists of 92 Coalition Partners that are groups, clubs and events. We are writing in support of Champagne Club, a private membership club with strict rules of admission. It is not a business that is open to the general public, so people don’t walk in off the street. The members’ personal information is taken with their membership application, so everyone is on record and agrees to the rules before entering the club.

There have been no issues with the Champagne Club, which means there is no reason for the City Council to oppose this club on the grounds of public safety. If you object because of moral reasons, then you personally shouldn’t join this club—however, City Councilmembers aren’t elected to impose your own morality on others. That is for each adult to determine for themselves.

Adult lifestyle events are not rare. According to a YouGov report (September 23 - 25, 2016) 39% of the respondents said they were not completely monogamous. These consenting adults need to be able to access private groups in order to obtain education about consent, communication and relationships. These events generate a great deal of revenue and repeat business for hotels and their local communities, and have done so for decades because the events are vigilant in complying with state and local laws concerning nudity and other forms of sexual intimacy. We do not believe in exposing anyone non-consensually to lifestyle activities.

We would like to work with you to ensure this club can continue and would like to discuss how we can address any concerns you might have. I look forward to working with you to resolve this issue.

My best,

Susan Wright
NCSF Chairperson

 

 

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